I think we can all relate to feeling out of place at least one point in our lives. It is hard to know what to do/where you belong when you are unsure of who you are. From an early age, we are dictated to, from being taught that pink is for girls/blue is for boys, to being told how to dress and to being told to act a certain way. So it is no surprise that so many people varying from all different ages, genders and ethnicities are so confused over who they actually are/who they wish to be.
For so long society has been manipulating young minds, altering their journey of self-discovery and changing futures to best shape others. But it's time we all decide to create our own paths, to choose to think kindly about ourselves and to not let others bring us down. The biggest part of self-discovery is starting with self-acceptance. Acceptance in all forms is extremely freeing, you can start by accepting the past, as the past is what has led you to where you are now, whether that be good or bad. Once the past has been accepted, you can then focus on the present. Within the present you can then begin to evaluate yourself, your likes/dislikes, strengths/weaknesses, favourite/worst attributes, ask yourself questions, writing them down or answer them in your mind. Dare to dream and dream big! Really delve deep into your fears and desires, as the more you ask yourself, the more you get the understand who you are as a person. Its ok to not like all the elements of yourself, but its more than ok to start loving yourself! Once you begin to familiarise yourself with your feelings, you can then practice self-love and acceptance on a daily basis, this will build both your confidence and self-esteem.
Discovering who you are is a journey that for some will be short or it could take a lifetime, you just have to learn to enjoy the ride. Don't hold on to others opinions, or compare yourself to societies outdated standards. As long as your kind to all living things, then you're doing a good job. And always remember your vibe attracts your tribe, put out positive energy and it will come back. Surround yourself with like-minded people, who want to build you up, who will celebrate with you in good times and support you during the bad times. When you find these people, cherish them as you will bring each other so much love and happiness!
Tips for discovering the real you:
1. Ask yourself, "Who am I?"
2. Practice mindfulness
3. Find your core values
4. Listen to what you say "yes" and "no" to
5. Find your purpose and passion
6. Practice self-care
7. Surround yourself with people who allow you to grow!!!